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STOP THE BLAME GAME AND START BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

— Deepalakshmi



For a long time now we have been discussing about how our children are not enjoying their childhood. Well, who should be blamed for this? YES, we ourselves!! Instead of just blaming the generation or the kids or the technology let us acknowledge that it is we who are responsible for ruining the childhood of our own kids.

Let’s stop the blame game by comparing and analyzing and ask ourselves how we can help our kids. First of all how many parents are ready to devote quality time to their kids? Just by enrolling them into various extracurricular activities and coaching classes we are only delegating the role to others. We as parents are not ready to nurture our kids and conveniently entrust the responsibility to the so called Masters of various arts to convert our kids into super humans to not just join the rat race but to win laurels for ourselves too!

Let us start by sitting with our kid and talk to him/her about the daily events at school and home for just 10 minutes a day. We do complain about our heavy work schedules and quote it as a reason for not spending time with our kids but we never stay away from the social networking sites or mobile phone Apps for our own entertainment. Leave alone on working days, even on weekends we prefer shopping, watching movies in theatres or taking them to the e-game zones rather than taking our kids to the nearby parks or enjoy an outdoor or indoor game with our kids.

In the name of love and affection we want to buy them the best rather latest electronic gadgets to see the flashing smile on their faces but for children, LOVE is spelt as T-I-M-E…..We are not ready to part with our gadgets hence the children follow the same. We want to relax and lack the patience to spend time with our own kids and hence due to loneliness the child becomes independent and learns to enjoy his /her own solitude which later becomes his/her privacy, and is thus submerged into the gadget world slowly drifting from us into another perilous world. The trap of virtual connectivity is so dangerous that we even don’t monitor what content is being viewed by our kids in our presence or absence. I was shocked to read the article in THE HINDU dated 22-10-2014 titled “Watch what your child is watching.” It is indeed traumatizing to know that a lot of porn content is being viewed by kids as entertainment. Will the government look into this seriously and block such sites and such videos from circulating?? Such addictions can be hazardous!! And yes, it is we who are to be blamed for this to a great extent and let us own up. If we fail to give attention to our kids, then other antisocial elements and activities will take away their attention.

In the name of love and affection we want to buy them the best rather latest electronic gadgets to see the flashing smile on their faces but for children, LOVE is spelt as T-I-M-E…..We are not ready to part with our gadgets hence the children follow the same. We want to relax and lack the patience to spend time with our own kids and hence due to loneliness the child becomes independent and learns to enjoy his /her own solitude which later becomes his/her privacy, and is thus submerged into the gadget world slowly drifting from us into another perilous world. The trap of virtual connectivity is so dangerous that we even don’t monitor what content is being viewed by our kids in our presence or absence. I was shocked to read the article in THE HINDU dated 22-10-2014 titled “Watch what your child is watching.” It is indeed traumatizing to know that a lot of porn content is being viewed by kids as entertainment. Will the government look into this seriously and block such sites and such videos from circulating?? Such addictions can be hazardous!! And yes, it is we who are to be blamed for this to a great extent and let us own up. If we fail to give attention to our kids, then other antisocial elements and activities will take away their attention.

To nip off such addictions in the bud, first of all, we as parents too need to stay away from television, cell phones and our laptops and spend time with them, talk to them .We may assign them simple household jobs accompanying them, make them follow a timetable to study, play and limit the use of the gadgets right from the start. Let us replace the visits to malls by visits to the parks, let us play at least one game (indoor or outdoor) with our kids or at least take the initiative to gather the kids in the colony and motivate them to play outdoor games so that they stay away from the electronic world. Let us spend time gardening, observing the nature to bring back the childhood of our kids who need to know that life is beautiful even without video games, cell phones, laptops and other electronic gadgets!! SO, let’s stop the blame game and start mending before it’s too late…..


About the Author
Deepalakshmi is a teacher by profession but now a freelance writer who loves to write thought provoking articles...i.e to bring out the issues faced by a common man and also suggest a suitable solution.

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